Journey with Della

Every now and then you come up against walls in your life. Some of them are new and and others, although they have been there for a while, seem to grow in thickness and stare at you in the face almost as if to say they want to remind you of just how helpless you are against them.

Helplessness… this is indeed what everyone in your life reveals. That feeling that regardless of what you do, this is not going away. The reminder that you’ve been here before and you couldn’t do anything about it and …yeah you still can’t do anything about it. feeling helpless it’s not something that any human being wants for themselves. And yet that’s what the walls bring with them.

Naturally, we want to be in charge. We want to take over the reins of life, skip a few steps, manipulate a few things, do whatever we must to move things forward. We want to look back at any moment in life and see some kind of progress …any kind of progress. And yes some of it comes at a cost; some of it comes at a price most of which we don’t want to pay yet whatever happens, we do not want to be in one place. We want to move forward. And that’s exactly why we hate walls.

It is the law of all progress that it is made by passing through some instability – and that it may take a very long time

Pierre Chardin

So dear friend, regardless of how much you hate them, these walls are actually your friends not your enemies. The only kind of progress that is sustainable and that is irreversible is the kind that is made not through the easiest paths of life but right through the same walls that threaten their very existence.

So, the next time you come up against one of those walls take a deep breath close your eyes and remember thar you need these walls to make the right kind of progress. But practically, what can you do when up against a wall?

1. Admit that you are facing a wall: there are a few things in life as annoying as an individual who denies the reality. The more you try to fake it and pretend like it’s not there the thicker your wall will grow and the harder it will become to journey through it. So, the very first thing you must do is accept that the wall is there because you can only confront and subsequently overcome what you have acknowledged and what you have accepted. What wall are you facing today?
2. Identify the area in your life that your wall is directly linked to: although some walls often seem to overwhelm your entire life, it is true about each wall that it is always directly linked to one aspect of your life. Identifying the one aspect gives you what to focus on and then and only then can you begin your journey through it. What is that wall connected to?
3. Clarify your attitude towards the thing that your wall is linked to: because walls generally make us helpless, we tend to resent them. What we don’t realize, however, is that the resentment we feel actually originates in that area in our lives to which the wall is connected. It is for this reason, therefore, that you must take time for to sit with yourself, sit with your emotions and identify what you actually feel about that thing in your life that is directly connected to the wall you are experiencing. How do you actually feel about that area in your life to which the wall is tied?
4. Take charge of how you feel going forward: negative emotions only make us more helpless. If you’re going to overcome this wall; if you’re going to journey through it successfully you must change the way you see it and consequently the way you feel about it. And like we have already said, the real feeling attached to your wall originates in the issue or the thing or the aspects of your life that the wall is directly connected to. You must change how you feel about it if you are going to change how you respond to it. Only a different response will give you a clear path through that wall and that response will remain elusive until you change how you feel about it. To effectively do this you must see the issue for what it really is. There is no denying that some of these issues are things for which we have struggled and struggled with no success. And while it might be true that there are disadvantages to us or at least perceived disadvantages to us by the continual persistence of the set issue, we just need to flip the coin over to see that there are indeed benefits that we experience in life because of that particular situation. Still don’t believe me? Take the time to look closely at both sides of that situation. What do you find?
5. Submit to the process: I find in my own life that it’s easier for me to trust the slow work of God in times like these. But whether you are a believer in Christ Jesus or not, process is a word that you’re going to have to love and yield to in life. Because, truth be told, no matter how hard you try or how much you cry about that wall all you’re going to get are very sore fingers and a bad headache. Time must run its course and the only way you’re going to overcome that wall is by going through it not be pushing it down or crying it away. What must you do differently as you submit to the process?

So there you have it! Walls are an integral part of life. We all go through them. In fact at any point in your life you’re either coming out of a wall, going through a wall or headed towards a wall. I’m sorry I couldn’t be a bearer of better news than that but this is the reality you must face in much the same way that I must too.

Just remember not to pretend or fake it the next time you come up against a wall. Instead admit it, take stock of how you truly feel about the thing in your life directly connected to the wall, take charge of how you’re going to feel about it going forward and submit to the process. You know what they say, insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.

Are you tired of how you have experienced your walls in the past? If so, what must you do differently?

I can’t take away the walls you must face ☹️but there is one thing I can guarantee you. If you do all that you just read and don’t get tired of doing it but keep on doing it with every wall in your life, you will be OK.😊

Let’s connect! What wall are you currently going through in your life? I would love to share mine with you but only one on one.😉And who knows we just might encourage each other on this journey through life.