Journey with Della

Part Zero: What took you so long?

Today I put myself in your shoes and I tried to imagine how long you’ve had to wait for this series. It was on June 24, 2020 that I made the promise to share with you more about my singleness. And I know, I know it’s almost been a year and I’m not exactly proud of that. 🤦🏾‍♀️ I thought you would probably be wondering what took me so long hence why I decided to begin the series with an explanation.

If you remember correctly the promise was to produce a seven part video series on the subject. Being the type of person that I am I gave the series serious thought (maybe a little bit too much thought) I planned it all out, had the episodes scripted and even recorded a few. But you see the problem with people like me is that the more thought they give to something the better they think it could be and the more they want to make it better. They try and try until eventually nothing is good enough and they chuck it all away.

So yeah, it would be accurate to say that the perfectionist in me took over at some point and we went through a different variety of attempts to give you the best version possible. But because we live in a world that’s not so perfect after all, little miss perfectionist soon got tired of trying so hard and shoved the project aside altogether. We went everywhere from trying different settings for different episodes; to re-creating some of the experiences; to doing it all interview style to building in flashbacks etc. You name it and I can bet you I tried it. Long story short after going round in circles trying to figure out the perfect way to serve you this meal that you have been waiting for for almost a year, nothing quite worked out. With my life already so busy, I should have known better than to try to add in more moving pieces.

The good news, however, is that I finally made up my mind to serve it to you this way – good old blogging style. 😊 It’s not what was promised but it is a meal nonetheless and I hope that you can enjoy it.

Consider this post today your appetizer. 😋This is only intended to let you know that the meal you’ve been waiting for is finally coming out. Every week, I promise you, for the next seven weeks you shall read all about my experience with singleness. Like I mentioned in the post last year, I will be answering specific questions that I have received from different people – friends, total strangers, well wishers and plain simple curious persons. The order in which I tackle them might change from what the initial post carried but I will do my best to let you in on what this experience has been and still is for me with the hopes that we can continue the conversation both on and off this blog.

Are you as ready for this as I am? Wait, don’t answer that!

It wouldn’t be proper to end this post without an apology. I am sorry for keeping you waiting almost a whole year. 🙏🏾 I hope you accept my apology and I hope you come back to read the first post in this series next week. I shall be answering the question is it that you’ve never desired to be married?

If you’re new here and missed the post from almost a year ago you can find it right here. I’m sure it will give you some background as you get ready to hear all about my experience with singleness.